Plus, with the rise of Pinterest, Instagram, and Snapchat splashing a couple’s big day all over social media, planning a wedding today is more stressful than it ever was before. But that doesn’t mean a bride (or groom!) should lose her sanity in the process. “The whole ‘bridezilla’ thing takes the stress of planning a wedding too far,” says Dr. Samantha Boardman, a psychiatrist at Weill Cornell Medicine and founder of Positive Prescription. “The notion that a perfectly normal woman is transformed into a literal monster is a punch line both men and women are comfortable giggling about. It taps into a masculine conception of a madwoman who appears normal, and then a switch flips and the formerly hidden beast within rears its ugly head.” Rather than play into the tired stereotype, think of planning the wedding as “a storm in a teacup,” Boardman says. “Letting go of perfection is one of the most challenging aspects of planning a wedding. No matter how well organized you are, make peace with the fact that you cannot control every aspect of the big day. Resist the temptation to catastrophize—if your dream of an outdoor wedding is compromised by a looming thunderstorm, your wedding is not ruined. Always have a plan B.” Below, tips from top wedding planners and therapists alike to ensure you stay both organized, happy, and stress-free leading up to the big day: Regardless of how simple or elaborate you are envisioning your day, planning out the logistics of such a special event will take time.
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